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I’m going to tweek this a little bit so it applies to my day. Today I am sick of conflict over religion.
Dotter told me that her husband was mad at me again over religion. Here’s what happened.
My granddaughter Missy, who is seven, asked me a couple of months ago, “Do you believe in god?” This is a topic I wouldn’t bring up myself, but she asked me and I answered, “No, I don’t.” “Me neither” she quickly responded. “I do”, said her little sister who is five. I told them that I was not comfortable discussing it with them, that I didn’t want to upset their dad. Let’s play and have fun.
On another day, she asked me why I have bibles if I don’t believe in god. I explained that one was my dad’s bible and one was my grandma’s and that I used to go to Sunday school and church but I didn’t ever feel I could love Jesus, someone I couldn’t see. I said that even if you don’t believe, it’s good to know what other people believe. Now, let’s play.
Little sister, has recently decided to start saying grace at dinnertime and Missy has decided not to say Amen with the rest of the family. Daddy got upset about that and had a talk with Missy. She told him (after quizzing, I assume) what I had said. Now her dad is mad at me. He thinks I have an agenda. He thinks her non-belief is my doing. He will probably want to limit my contact with her.
I heard all this from my daughter who is trying to stay neutral. She’s trying to stay married. She just wanted to tip me off that he’s mad. Again.
I’ve never been disrespectful to him, but he takes my non-belief personally. It’s insulting to him, that I don’t believe in his god.
I half expected him to call today, but he didn’t, so maybe he’s cooled off. I hope he’ll just let it go. I think that would be best.
I just wonder what Missy is feeling now. Believers have a tendency to shame little girls who don’t believe.
Sad, but true.