Tell us about a time you or someone you know said something that they immediately regretted.
Photographers, artists, poets: show us SHAME.
I wished I hadn’t reacted that way. I regretted my anger, my harsh words and raised voice. Why did I react that way?
It wasn’t necessary or helpful to shame the child. You can’t expect a child to come to you with a problem if you respond like that. I wanted my kids to feel like they could tell me anything.
I blew it.
It dawned on me that I had acted like my mother. That was her parenting style: yelling and shaming. The goal was not to teach, but to make me cry, to hurt my feelings.
I didn’t want to be that kind of mom.
I went back into Dotter’s room and apologized for my angry reaction. I tried to be more mindful after that, to be a kinder, gentler mom; but how much damage had I already done?
I wished I had seen it sooner.